Part VI: Humiliation: A Journey Into The Unconscious.

In our last segment, we covered the exciting topic of Violence as it pertains to sexuality and to Female Domination in particular. We learned that Vixen will almost inevitably avail herself of extreme violence in the service of her sexual objectives (vis-à-vis her subject), and that she relies upon it not only to fuel her own sexual arousal in the exercise of her power, but also as a progressive form of further arousal as she then contemplates her subject’s state of extreme compromise and degradation after the fact. All her thoughts and actions are aimed squarely at the manifestation of her power in the most comprehensive possible fashion, and physical domination is of paramount importance for her in the achievement of this goal.

Beyond the level of physical rule, however, lies the true ultimate object of Vixen’s quest: the complete subjugation of the male’s very Being. This phase of Domination, being metaphysical, cannot be accomplished by mere physical punishment, no matter how severe. This she accomplishes through Humiliation, and finally Dehumanization. Here is the realm in which our study reaches its zenith. Here we probe the deepest darkest secrets of the unconscious, and learn the most extraordinary details about the activity of the human psyche, and indeed, about consciousness itself. This is the realm of The Mind, the psychological front, and it is the most fascinating frontier, not only of sexuality, but of Anthropology and Theology as well. It is here that we really learn what makes human beings tick!

So, just how do we define humiliation? Basically, it means that one is made to appear foolish or contemptible, especially in the eyes of others. It is certainly not uncommon for Vixen to mistreat her subject in front of an audience, and she generally has no problem with this if the opportunity is present at the time of her encounter. On a deeper level, however, and more applicable to our study, is the notion of humiliation as ‘degradation.’ In degradation, we move to a level beyond mere embarrassment, or of being made to look foolish. With degradation we are now concerned with the lowering of the subject’s status. To DE-GRADE is to lower in grade or rank, and may be thought of as a demotion. It is this dynamic that allows her to display her power more and more perfectly as her own status becomes ever-more exalted with the ever-diminishing status of the subject. This formula has some very interesting implications, as we will soon see. As a convenience, I will henceforth use the terms humiliation and degradation synonymously.

Humiliation is intimately connected to the ego, the particular level of power that is present in ones own self-image. For example, before reaching a level at which he experiences humiliation, a man who perceives himself as ineffectual, inadequate, unworthy, etc. will require more extreme measures to be taken against him than will a high-profile, Alpha-type male who prides himself on his power, on his abilities to achieve, and on what he perceives to be the exalted status of his own personality and charm. Such a man as this may feel severe humiliation if his tie is slightly crooked in the presence of others. It takes very little for him to experience a sense of belittlement and embarrassment. And so, Vixen’s job differs from subject to subject, but either way it is only a matter of time before her penchant for degradation assumes full control of her quarry. Humiliation may be seen as the crossover medium between Violence and the ultimate end of Female Domination, Dehumanization. Through violence, Vixen shows the subject that she is in complete control of him physically. The threat of being beaten unmercifully is before him at all times. Note here also that the threat of physical violence is the standard expression of force in any cultural institution. It is the same threat used by the state, through the mechanism of its militia, in virtually every culture on earth. It basically says: ‘Get out of line and you’ll get your ass kicked.’

But having established this medium of control over her subject, Vixen takes her power to an even higher level by wielding complete psychological control through the process of humiliation. Let’s take another look at the steps involved in progressive degradation.

On the Physical Plane. You are Man, I am Woman. It is generally accepted that you are the physically stronger gender. I am going to DEGRADE you to that of an inferior by overcoming your so-called superior strength and beating you into utter submission.

Humiliation. Though I have proven myself stronger, DEGRADED you to physical inferior, you are still a man, a human being, deserving of certain inalienable rights and dignity. Therefore, I will DEGRADE you further, stripping you also of those human attributes. You shall have NO rights, other than those I sanction, and you shall obey my every command instantly and without resistance. And so we see that ultimate control comes by way of the progressive liquidation of qualities by which the subject defines himself. After removing his notion of physical superiority, the next thing to go is any sense of self-worth or self-assurance, and when those are gone, Vixen will have accomplished the liquidation of what the subject understands as his ‘dignity.’

Culture knows two basic forms of abject humiliation: Slavery and Imprisonment. Both of these forms of humiliation work on the premise that the removal of a subject’s freedom is the core mechanism for the breaking down of the will.  Vixen relies upon and interesting mix in this regard. The aspect of slavery is more or less self-explanatory, but concerning imprisonment, Vixen may use a very cruel form of reverse-psychology here. It is not uncommon for her to bid the subject his leave when he is desperate to remain in her presence, but to then imprison him forcefully at precisely such times as he may desire a return to his normal life or to take care of pressing affairs, etc. The dynamic is such that the subject NEVER acquires the fulfillment of a desire. As even the most basic desires continue to go unfulfilled, an inevitable feeling of loss begins to fill the soul of the subject. It is an escalating sense of frustration that all basic choices, choices long taken for granted, have been removed from ones own sphere of control. This brings about depression and feelings of worthlessness; precisely the mind-state Vixen has set out to produce in him. In addition to rendering him powerless, she will compound his feelings of worthlessness by forcing upon him ever-more unpleasant and menial chores. He will clean her shoes to an immaculate shine, often using nothing more than his tongue. And when the tops of them are clean, she will then have him lick the soles clean as well. All the while, she has been flaunting her glorious body at him in a compelling state of undress. As he is polishing her shoes to a sparkle, he is abjectly tormented by her big beautiful legs, with which she taunts him and teases him mercilessly as he works. The combination of beauty and power on her part, and intense, frenetic desire on his part can only lead to his breaking down when the situation is pushed to its limits. Rest assured, Vixen will push it there and beyond!

Humiliation compounds the subject’s state of degradation in significant and quite serious ways. The most powerful of these takes the form of a breakdown in the subject’s ability to reason normally, and more importantly, in a collapse of the will through which he begins to lose hope of escape from Vixen. A purely physical beating leaves the subject open to notions of escape. Even if he is beaten into unconsciousness, he reasons he may awaken to an opportunity to get away from her. Humiliation operates in the realm of the Unconscious, progressively wearing down this potential for hope until the subject ceases to see himself as an autonomous entity with the self-worth, dignity, and intelligence to even orchestrate such an escape, let alone survive on his own if he were to succeed. As Vixen continues to increase the level of humiliation, she drives her subject into a progressively more dehumanized state. Before long, his own self-image is that of a being whose perpetual mind-state is that of self-doubt, fear, and servitude. All this happens at his deepest level, in the dark realm of the Unconscious where his truest self actually resides. Vixen’s techniques of Domination and Humiliation constitute the tools she will use to access that most inaccessible part of his true being and effect her profound influence. Here she deals with his human essence completely free of all the standard ‘filters’ that socialization builds up between our true selves and the world in which we must function according to certain standards and practices. Here Vixen stands before her subject in accordance with his true desires, which are those of actually becoming assimilated into her divine being. Then, having bridged the gulf between the inaccessible and the world of everyday reality, the subject becomes a broken man on the one hand, as he can now no longer distinguish between his deeper self and the self that functions in the world, but on the other hand a free man, no longer enslaved by the soul-killing conventions of ‘normal’ society. He is almost beyond retrieval at this point, seeing himself only as a being whose identity lies in the charge of serving his mistress. He is not far from the end,–and the new beginning–dehumanization, which will be the subject of our next chapter.

The Techniques of Humiliation. Earlier, we broke the concept of humiliation down into two basic forms, Slavery and Imprisonment.  Within the contexts of these larger forms, the techniques of humiliation are as diverse as the personalities of Dominant Females and the men they rule. There are, of course, a few tried and true staples that are incorporated in most cases.

1. Verbal Abuse. This simple act on Vixen’s part is possibly the most effective of them all because it is so consistent. Verbal abuse accompanies almost every aspect of her dominance. The continual browbeating, screaming, threatening, barking of commands in the style of the stereotypical drill sergeant, the endless criticism with ne’er a word of praise; she fills him with a comprehensive understanding of his worthlessness in a very short time with this approach. Many men say it is the most debilitating tool in Vixen’s entire arsenal of abusive techniques.

2. Enforced Servitude. We’re all familiar with this one. Enforced servitude is a powerful tool in humiliation because it has the effect of lowering the subject’s own ideas about his status. Forcing him to do her cooking, cleaning, maid duties, difficult and dirty tasks, accompanied as always by the ongoing verbal abuse, quickly robs the subject of his dignity, and, beginning to realize that this is the position in which he will STAY, he descends into a more confused mental state, becoming more and more dependent upon Vixen’s instructions by which he is beginning to define himself.

3. Body Worship. This category covers any form of enforced ‘meditation’ by the subject on designated parts of Vixen’s anatomy. The most typical examples are enforced worship of the legs, thighs, feet, ass, or breasts, depending usually upon the subject’s particular sensitivities. For example, if it is Vixen’s thighs that generate the greatest arousal, then she will force him to kneel before them for extended periods, beholding them with undivided attention, and usually, as an additional stimulus, smelling her delightful, perfumed flesh in the same area as well. If it is her ass that drives him wild, she will force him to sit just inches from it and absorb its subtle movements, and certainly its perhaps not so subtle fragrances. The technique of body worship is extremely powerful, having been known to cause premature catatonia in various subjects without recourse to any higher forms of degradation.

4. Cuckolding. With this technique Vixen continues the trend of degradation, reinforcing the subject’s self-image of worthlessness by enjoying the romantic and/or sexual advances of other men while forcing him to bear witness. Here, Vixen demonstrates acceptance of the male in the service of her pleasure, provided he is possessed of all the qualities she deems necessary, while reinforcing the subject’s self-image of unacceptability. Instances of cuckolding range from playful romantic exchanges to the most intimate sexual relations, all enacted with the subject serving as audience to the proceedings.

These 4 main categories cover most, if not all, of what I am labeling as Humiliation. It may be objected that there are many more demeaning and humbling forms of humiliation than these, and of course, this is true. However, these harsher forms of humiliation fall into the final category of Female Domination, and that is Dehumanization. Dehumanization differs from humiliation in the nature of its objective. It’s objective is not that of lowering a man’s self-image. It is that of removing it altogether. With dehumanization comes the transformation of man into something sub-human. It is the final phase in Vixen’s glorious, ultimate triumph over the will of the human male. With dehumanization, she reduces him to the threshold of death.

Be sure and join me for the next segment in our study. Dehumanization: Vixen’s Grand Prize.